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Originally Posted by sexyshelby Well...I dont know how "experienced" I am...but here's my take on it:
Being honest with your wife (assuming you were completely honest about your feelings and the situation) is a good thing. In a strong relationship, honesty is never a mistake (Unless you say, "Yes honey, your ass does look big in those jeans"  )
So, what happens if your wife does have sex with this other man?  Only time will tell. She may love it; she may hate it. But, I doubt that this would ruin your marriage.
It may make her realise that she doesn't like having sex with anyone other than you. It may make her realise that she loves having sex with someone else. Regardless, she will need your support through this journey.
You say that you are worried that "he may suck"... This is a little conceited, don't ya think?
What was your wife's reaction to this? And is she considering it?
I hope it is obvious, that you should not push her into this if she doesnt not want to/is not ready. Let her move at her own pace.
There ya go...those are my thoughts for whatever they're worth...
Talk to your wife about this some more before it happens. Communication is the key.
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Thanx for the reply and good points.
Well there is the possiblity that he may not be good in bed....it is a small one for a man that has been married but it still is a possibility. In fact there are more than a few men that suffer from pre-mature ejaculation.
I am not saying that I am Mr. GREAT in bed.
My wifes reaction when I said that I am worried that he may "suck" in bed and that she may be disappointed in the experience was this....."I don't think that he would suck as I think he is an experienced man. I am worried that I would not live up to his standards."
Is she considering it?....well she only considers that a sexual relationship is a possibility but a very small one. At this time she only wnats friendship and I respect that....yet part of me is yelling inside and saying TRY IT, it will be a blast and how can you not try it when I am not only permitting it telling you to do it.
Yes communication is the key and she wants to tell me everything and we do talk about what she does with this fellow all the time. Nothing is secret between us.
I tell her that SHE is in control and not me or her friend and that although I think it would be a great experience to be sexual with this guy, I tell her not to do ANYTHING that she does not want to do.
Also, I would like a female to tell my wife that it is okay to have a sexual relationship with this guy for fun, since I think it is a good idea but only if she wants to. I think this would get her "thinking" more than if another man said the same thing.