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Originally Posted by funseeking Yes good point but I am looking for some experienced opinions here. |
Well...I dont know how "experienced" I am...but here's my take on it:
Being honest with your wife (assuming you were completely honest about your feelings and the situation) is a good thing. In a strong relationship, honesty is never a mistake (Unless you say, "Yes honey, your ass does look big in those jeans"
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So, what happens if your wife does have sex with this other man?
Only time will tell. She may love it; she may hate it. But, I doubt that this would ruin your marriage.
It may make her realise that she doesn't like having sex with anyone other than you. It may make her realise that she loves having sex with someone else. Regardless, she will need your support through this journey.
You say that you are worried that "he may suck"... This is a little conceited, don't ya think?
What was your wife's reaction to this? And is she considering it?
I hope it is obvious, that you should not push her into this if she doesnt not want to/is not ready. Let her move at her own pace.
There ya go...those are my thoughts for whatever they're worth...
Talk to your wife about this some more before it happens. Communication is the key.
~SS