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Originally posted by OhioCouple
When we first met, I was what could be called VERY sexually inhibited. |
Wow Mrs. O, that's wacky. When I first met Mr. SoBe she was very inhibited also. She's always been a fast girl and she has a looooong list of guys in her past, but she never really enjoyed them. Always said that she got off on the power of being in charge and using a guy but that's all that she got out of it, she never really got off. I used to think that she was just saying that to make me feel important but now that I've personally seen her fuck new guys I have a better understanding of how it works for her. That's one of the great things about swinging for me, I get to see all kinds of facets of her that normally would be off-limits.
I have been working with my wife for four years to try to get her to a point where she can enjoy sex itself, not just the power-trip mind games. She's still one of those women that swingers love to hate, who needs to get screwed up on some substance or another before she can really enjoy sex. She's just too preoccupied with worry and distraction otherwise, and I think some emotional baggage that I'm only just now tapping into. I have managed to teach her to have fun in bed sober, I'm still working on teaching her to have fun having group sex while sober. Either way she still really has the most fun when she's screwed up in the company of people that she trusts, it's just her way.
Back to the point though, why would I be interested in putting all of this work into her and into my relationship with her, only to give it up to some guy who wouldn't know inhibition from emotional baggage if it fell on him? I am the one that put the work into showing up with my wife to a swing club. He's not doing anything but showing up with a dick.
Leaving your wife at home and then showing up and hitting on swinger women is like showing up at a pot luck dinner with no food. You think "Hey, there's plenty of food to go around, one more guy showing up and eating won't leave anybody starving." All of the people who went to the trouble of cooking will be pissed off though, because you're just showing up and taking, you're not contributing anything.
Just another out of a long list of reasons...