[EvilMJ]

sereneiders made some really great points. I think you are playing with fire (my own opinon, others may not share) by pushing her to have sex with someone that she sees now as a good friend. There are three outcomes that I can see: She has the time of her life and they remain friends, it doesn't work out and kills their friendship, or the worst, it works out and now there is an emotional and sexual connection that may cause some problems between you and her.

She said that she is not interested for various reasons, you may have to leave it at that. If you push to hard it is not a good thing. You have laid the invitation down on the table, now it is up to her to pick it up and it has to be her decision.

I think it is great that you are very open minded and love you wife so much that you want to give her this opportunity, just don't get too caught up and excited by the idea. Give her time and space to make her own decisions.

And then be prepared to live with her decision. I caution you that sometimes how you THINK you are going to feel about something may end up being totaly different than how you feel when it actually happens.