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funseeking · 04-13-2006, 03:49 AM

Hello all. This is my first post and I am hoping to help my wife please bare with me as I explain....

My wife has been "blooming" these past 5 years for the first time. She has discovered that she is a very good looking woman after years of thinking she was plain.

One of the things she wanted to do in this "coming out" process was to have a close male friend, not for sex but for simple frienship. I encouraged her to and she has found one.

As I mentioned she only wants friendship but I have encouraged her to try a sexual relationship with this man. She has never been with another man besides me. I want her to do this for the fun and thrill of it. I honestly think it will be a good experience for her and that the experience will actually make her like sex more and benefit our own sex life. It will be a great part of her "discovering herself" experience that she has been going through these past 5 years. I am convinced it will benefit her in many ways.

This male friend of hers finds her very attractive and has told her. This does make her feel good. At this time he will not even hug her because my wife has told him all she wants is friendship.

I asked her if she thought it would be fun to be with another man and she said that it probably would be but that she does not think about that. She then said that she is afraid anyway. I asked her what she was afraid of and she said that she was afraid that she would not live up to HIS expectations.
This is unfounded I can assure you as she is very good in bed. Never the less she has this insecurity. Conquering this insecurity by having good sex with another man would be a big boost to her sexual self esteem too.

By the way I have no desire to be with another woman and this may be because she doesn't like the idea.

The idea of her with another man is a turn on to me....I am really turned on by seeing her enjoy sex and I honestly think that having sex with a new parter would be the untimate thrill for her....and this thought turns me on.

We have a very good marriage and she has told me that she will never trade me for any man and I believe her. Of course I don't want to loose her and I don't think I will no matter how far she goes with this man because our love for each other is so mature.
She is impressed with my ability to let her do as she pleases and she really appreciates that but at this time she does not want to "experiment" even though I have told her many times that it would be a good experience for her and would very likely benefit us as a couple.

How can I get her to break down her "barriers" and try being with this man sexually? Any comments appreciated.

04-13-2006, 03:49 AM	#1 (permalink)
funseeking Active Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 22 Location: ca	Ladies can you help me get my wife to swing with a male friend? Hello all. This is my first post and I am hoping to help my wife please bare with me as I explain.... My wife has been "blooming" these past 5 years for the first time. She has discovered that she is a very good looking woman after years of thinking she was plain. One of the things she wanted to do in this "coming out" process was to have a close male friend, not for sex but for simple frienship. I encouraged her to and she has found one. As I mentioned she only wants friendship but I have encouraged her to try a sexual relationship with this man. She has never been with another man besides me. I want her to do this for the fun and thrill of it. I honestly think it will be a good experience for her and that the experience will actually make her like sex more and benefit our own sex life. It will be a great part of her "discovering herself" experience that she has been going through these past 5 years. I am convinced it will benefit her in many ways. This male friend of hers finds her very attractive and has told her. This does make her feel good. At this time he will not even hug her because my wife has told him all she wants is friendship. I asked her if she thought it would be fun to be with another man and she said that it probably would be but that she does not think about that. She then said that she is afraid anyway. I asked her what she was afraid of and she said that she was afraid that she would not live up to HIS expectations. This is unfounded I can assure you as she is very good in bed. Never the less she has this insecurity. Conquering this insecurity by having good sex with another man would be a big boost to her sexual self esteem too. By the way I have no desire to be with another woman and this may be because she doesn't like the idea. The idea of her with another man is a turn on to me....I am really turned on by seeing her enjoy sex and I honestly think that having sex with a new parter would be the untimate thrill for her....and this thought turns me on. We have a very good marriage and she has told me that she will never trade me for any man and I believe her. Of course I don't want to loose her and I don't think I will no matter how far she goes with this man because our love for each other is so mature. She is impressed with my ability to let her do as she pleases and she really appreciates that but at this time she does not want to "experiment" even though I have told her many times that it would be a good experience for her and would very likely benefit us as a couple. How can I get her to break down her "barriers" and try being with this man sexually? Any comments appreciated.