[Ofrdcple]

This happened to me the first time we played. I think my senses were overloaded. I was taking in the fact that Mrs was doing another woman, for only the second time. (Us guys only watched the first time), Her husband (my good friend) had entered her from behind. Now I felt slightly pressured to make sure his Mrs didn't feel left out, so I was thinking about all this at the same time and might have had sensory overload. I had a respectable erection but didn't cum. I did manage to satisfy my friend’s wife. At the end of the night all were happy including me. After our friends left, and we had settled down, the wife and I had some great sex. I had absolutely no problem finishing.

Since then, (It's been three years) we still play semi-regularly with those guys and this has never happened again. It has actually evolved into a great thing. We will go out and not play as often as we go out and play. Once the newness had worn off, and the expectations had decreased, no problems.

We are very laid back in the way we approach our play. That seems to help. The Mrs sometimes will get worked up thinking she has to meet certain people's expectations at first. But I really don't care if play happens or not. I think that attitude has been a big help. Go with everyone’s advice here. If everyone involved is having fun, why stop? Orgasms aren’t the only enjoyable thing about swinging.

Good Luck, Mr Ofrdcple