When we were new in swinging, some twenty years ago, we heard of the excitement some people get when their spouses go out on their own and have sex with others, much like some singles do.
Mrs. Alura met an attractive man and we decided to give it a try. Frankly, it was a huge disappointment. She successfully got laid but found the experience underwhelming. The guy was not a "bad lover" but neither did she get a thrill. I also got no thrill when she told me all about it later. We decided it was a waste of time and never tried it again.
Years later we decided to try a somewhat different "on your own" experience when we agreed to each try to "seduce" our high school sweethearts at our class reunions. I was successful, but Mrs. Alura's HSS must have been dumb as a rock because he never seemed to understand what was being offered to him. All she got was a tongue-kiss which surprised the hell out of him.
Mrs. Alura was pleased with my success which was a lot of fun for me, probably more so because my HSS and I hadn't had sex back then... well, not intercourse, anyway.
We'll probably never try it again... well... unless her HSS wises up at a future reunion. She has retained the right to do it if she wants to. There is no need for me to play with my HSS again.
Certainly, we would never lie to someone... pretend to be single, etc. Life is too short for such nonsense. Besides, here in Oklahoma, we have a "concealed carry" gun law so you never know who's packin' a shootin' iron.
Have you considered that if your husband is willing to lie to other women that he might do the same to you should it suit his needs?
Frankly, your husband pisses me off.
Mr. Alura