 Re: He never has a "happy ending" when swinging!
It happens to me often, moreover when with new people, and happend to me in previous relationships that it used to take too long for me to come.
As Brat said, that leaded me to hard times explainign "everithing is ok and I enjoyed it". Of course, an orgasm is better than none at all, but by now I dont make myelf expectations (i'd have it later on, given the case, with my wife) and enjoy it anyway. What's important is the fun more than the orgasms you have.
I recognize the motivation have to do with the need to remain in control of the situation, which leads me to certain stress level that I lose as I get relaxed and used with the people.
Soemthing is for sure... making an issue of this wouldn't help, en may become worst. If you want to be in control, and suppose this is something that you can fix from being concious or by focusing on something while in the middle, well... you enhance that controlling feeling, making it less likely to happen. And moreover if he feels this interfere with you and you blame yourself.
If he said to you he's ok and he enjoy it, I'd suggert you avoid beating the horse. Give him time and take his word for good.
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