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Old 04-06-2006, 08:02 PM   #15 (permalink)
Coupleinidaho
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Default Re: Boy have I got problems

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Originally Posted by winemedinemewha
Boyfriend of 4 years.. HE introduced ME to swinging and it felt like --- ahhhh, THIS is what I've been looking for...

Now he doesn't want to "share me" because he has realized he "loves" me. Lessee, how the heck did he feel for the FIRST three and a half years when we had an open relationship (at his insistence)??

I love him but I don't want to give up swinging. It feels like something I've been looking for all my life and I want to explore it more, even on my own. I feel like he's just trying to control me (first he wants it, then he doesn't, blah blah) but perhaps he's right and I am just being selfish...
Without your boyfriend's input, it's impossible to give a fair and balanced opinion. But from your post, it appears to me (Mrs.) that you are angry his feelings on the subject of swinging have changed. Pulling the ole' "he's trying to control me" is a bit much too. So what if he was the one that introduced you to swinging/open relationships, that doesn't mean he can't change his mind after experiencing the lifestyle. In fact, your "blah blah blah" comment really strikes me as being self-centered and immature. Communication is the cornerstone to any relationship (swinging or vanilla), and the two of you really need to work on that area, if you decide to stay with him.
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