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Originally Posted by EvilMJ  ..
I'm not saying that you cannot be commited in a relationship when you are not married. To me the difference is when you are not married it is a whole lot easier to break up with someone if you determine that you are not right for each other, then it is when you are married. |
Well, we have a 16 years relationship, technically speaking we're not married altough we reffer to each other as husband and wife for short. The commitment has nothing to do with what you keep off the books, and no one is able to say how long is enough to turn a commited relationship into a "serious" one, if 6 months, 3 years, 16 years, or 25.
Let's suppose she said she meet him 3,5 years ago, and actually married him one year ago. The only adition she'd have here is that, should she decide to break up, she'd have to face a legal overload, i.e., divorce paperwork. So the issue would be basically the same wheter she were married or not.
She's asking for advice because of the emotional stress this situation brings to her. This is something subjective, no one can deprive this stress from weight because there isn't a marriage involved, even for those who actually feels, subjectively, that marriage makes a difference.
So, I think we should stick to the emotional stress and the ways she may have to deal with it, as to be able to reach to her own decision.