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OhioCouple · 01-06-2003, 04:09 PM

This is my take as a newbie swinger and married wife.

First off, TeamSoBe and RnKin Fla, I agree with everything you have both said. I cannot be as eloquent as either of you so I'll give you my personal take here in my less than eloquent way.

I am a married woman and have been involved in a relationship with my husband for nine years, married for three of them. We have invested a lot of time into our relationship and our intimate lives.

When we first met, I was what could be called VERY sexually inhibited. It took years to bring out just how sexual I could be, but my husband loved me for what I was through each phase of development. To this day I do not know if he ever participated in swinging in his past, and I will not ask him, even though I believe he may have. The reason I don't or won't ask him, is that it has no bearing on our relationship. It isn't that I would be upset or jealous, it is just the plain and simple fact that I have no interest to know.

What we have together was cultivated over time and neither of us will allow that to be destroyed by entertaining and allowing a cheating partner, no matter the reason, into our lives. Hell, we frown on those that we have seen do it in our every day lives and they have no knowledge of what we do when the lights go down.

I (Mrs. O) and I will also speak for my husband here as I know it is a fact, would never allow someone who we knew was cheating on their spouse to fuck me or him for that matter. We would not cheapen ourselves or stoop to that level. If we have a sexual issue we work on it, we don't/won't seek to get pleasure elsewhere.

We make a joint choice to share our bodies with other like minded people. No one takes one for the team. We enjoy our new found lifestyle and have met many great friends. What we do is together and lovingly with the full consent of all involved. A married man swinging alone does not have that, therefore you are not ANYONE we would be interested in at all.

So for all the married cheating people out there, move on. Take TeamSoBe's advice and visit those other sites out there. Leave us the hell alone. We don't want to meet you and we don't want to play with you or be a party to your infidelity.

As a quick comment, I was on the receiving end of a cheating spouse in my first marriage. As RnKin Fla said they don't want to be a party to it, I can tell you first hand not only do I not want to be, but I got my justice in a courtroom and it wasn't pretty for anyone that had to testify. So think about that the next time you try to nail someone behind your spouses back.

Mrs. O

01-06-2003, 04:09 PM	#6 (permalink)
OhioCouple Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 6,619 Location: Ohio Status: Married Female	This is my take as a newbie swinger and married wife. First off, TeamSoBe and RnKin Fla, I agree with everything you have both said. I cannot be as eloquent as either of you so I'll give you my personal take here in my less than eloquent way. I am a married woman and have been involved in a relationship with my husband for nine years, married for three of them. We have invested a lot of time into our relationship and our intimate lives. When we first met, I was what could be called VERY sexually inhibited. It took years to bring out just how sexual I could be, but my husband loved me for what I was through each phase of development. To this day I do not know if he ever participated in swinging in his past, and I will not ask him, even though I believe he may have. The reason I don't or won't ask him, is that it has no bearing on our relationship. It isn't that I would be upset or jealous, it is just the plain and simple fact that I have no interest to know. What we have together was cultivated over time and neither of us will allow that to be destroyed by entertaining and allowing a cheating partner, no matter the reason, into our lives. Hell, we frown on those that we have seen do it in our every day lives and they have no knowledge of what we do when the lights go down. I (Mrs. O) and I will also speak for my husband here as I know it is a fact, would never allow someone who we knew was cheating on their spouse to fuck me or him for that matter. We would not cheapen ourselves or stoop to that level. If we have a sexual issue we work on it, we don't/won't seek to get pleasure elsewhere. We make a joint choice to share our bodies with other like minded people. No one takes one for the team. We enjoy our new found lifestyle and have met many great friends. What we do is together and lovingly with the full consent of all involved. A married man swinging alone does not have that, therefore you are not ANYONE we would be interested in at all. So for all the married cheating people out there, move on. Take TeamSoBe's advice and visit those other sites out there. Leave us the hell alone. We don't want to meet you and we don't want to play with you or be a party to your infidelity. As a quick comment, I was on the receiving end of a cheating spouse in my first marriage. As RnKin Fla said they don't want to be a party to it, I can tell you first hand not only do I not want to be, but I got my justice in a courtroom and it wasn't pretty for anyone that had to testify. So think about that the next time you try to nail someone behind your spouses back. Mrs. O
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