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Originally Posted by Sweet_Candy I thought "soft swap" was code for girl on girl play only?  |
The interesting thing is that soft swap can have so many different interpretations. For most people it is playing/having sex with your own partner while another couple is in the same room. There can be touching of the other couple, and sometimes oral sex, but for the most part any sex is done with your own partner.
lovemonkey#1,
I suggest you do a search of the threads here in situational help. I think you will find this to be a VERY common occurance. My own husband when through a very similar situation when we first started swinging and for him, probably like yourself, it was all a mental thing.
The more he thought out about it, the worse he got. We talked things through a lot and eventually he did work out his problem. The only difference is that he did not have a problem when having sex with me. I have to agree with you about stress playing a major role on the libedo. Even as a woman I find that my sex drive decreases when i am very stressed out. So take heart, you are not the only one out there struggling with this very thing. The only suggestion I have is talking, relaxation, and just keep trying!
Good luck