[Additude]

You know what? Things change, life changes, relationships change, love grows and so on. It's like a big oak tree with many branches and stems.

I would say your faced with some decisions then. This is your boy friend, not your husband. Your not married to him....your only commited.

So, if he wants to stop swinging because he now "Loves" you then that's understandable as love grows, feelings grow with it. I don't think he is feeling possessive of you as much as now his feelings are thinking how much they don't want to loose you. If he really loves you then he needs to be considering marriage and a family.

You like swinging and I think he does also, just that in the beginning when you two first started swinging the relationship was more casual for him, probably for you also. Now his feelings have grown for you and he wants to stop swinging, something he introduced you to and something you discovered you like.

So, are you ready to move on? End the relationship with him and explore the world of swinging with out him? Maybe you are and maybe your not. If you end the relationship then will your next boy friend or partner even consider swinging? Do you want to swing alone as a single female?

If you are both swinging alone and not together, such as an open relationship, then your decision to either leave or stay is easier for both of you.

If you don't want to move on then it's time for a heart to heart talk with him. The bottom line is he made his bed and now he has to sleep in it. You can explain to him that for right now anyways, swinging is something you want to do and you want his love also. Maybe you and he can compromise. For example; limit your swinging to once or twice a month or something else.

I think the situation is negotiable, your "In Love" BF is going to have to be the one to make a bigger compromise because he got you started into this to begin with. Your compromise is based on your needs / wants and how you want to persue and explore further swinging.

Who knows, swinging may just be a "Thing" for you right now and although I do not know your age, if your young your priorities may change after you start a family, etc.

So, if it comes down to ending the relationship then I'd let him end, or both of you mutually agree to end it, as this impasse in your relationship is based on his change of mind. Tell him you need swinging in your sex life and want to share it in your relationship with him. If that doesn't work for him, especially now after he involved you in it, then it would be best if you both moved on.