A lot of "single" guys who are not really single like
Bootsie and
Rkingston just continue to misunderstand why they are unwelcome in swinging. There are lots of reasons why swingers in general resent cheating husbands that call themselves "single males". This post isn't about those reasons, this post is about my reasons for resenting them. I am the husband half of a swinging married couple. We are a couple that loves MMF.
Cheating guys, the reason why I personally resent you so much is because I put a lot of work into my situation. I spent the time to get to know myself and to get over the Madonna/Whore complex that keeps you guys from allowing your wives to swing with you. I spent years of my life looking for a sexually adventurous woman to spend my life with. Once I found her I put the ground work into opening up with her and communicating with her and sharing in the decision to explore. I spent the time on the emotional rollercoaster that you ride when you watch your woman fuck another guy. I put the effort into building the trust necessary for her to watch me fucking another woman.
The reason why I personally resent you is because I did all of that work and I am not interested in sharing the fruits of my labor with some jerk who wants the sex without the effort.
Some of you have a Madonna/Whore complex and you can't deal with your own wives fucking other people. You're obviously treating my wife as the whore if you fuck her at a swing party, right? You think of my wife as a dirty slut while you're fucking her and then you go back to the angelic mother of your children and I'm supposed to be cool with you thinking of my wife that way? Fuck you, she's too good for you.
Some of you didn't sort out your priorities when you were young and you got trapped into a sexually stifling marriages. You think that somehow you're still entitled to a healthy sex life anyway even after missing your opportunity when you had a chance to guide your life. You think that you're entitled to erotic times even though your wife isn't interested, and my wife is where you want to plant your dick. No, my wife's pussy is not your reward for your short-sighted life planning. I knew what was important to me and I prioritized my life and put the effort into getting it.
Some of you just can't bring yourselves to open up with your wives and communicate what you are looking for. I learned to have open and honest relationships with women from an early age. You don't get to skip that entire process so that you can pander to your dick. Not with my wife. My wife is a really cool girl, part of that is because she is capable of communicating openly and honestly about her sexual desires. She's too good for somebody like you who can stick his dick in a girl but who can't talk about it.
Some of you have wives that would never trust you enough to get into swinging with you. Well gee, that's a hole that you dug for yourselves by cheating on your wives. You don't get to bypass that problem by cheating on your wives yet again with my wife. Swinging men look at how guys treat their own wives when we make the decision to allow those guys to fuck our wives. If you lie to your wife in order to show up at the swing party in the first place then you've already failed my test. If you don't have a female partner with you to vouch for your ability to be good to a woman then you're not going anywhere near my wife.
There are lots of reasons why swingers in general dislike cheating husbands, but those are some of mine. This post is the opinion of the swinger husband that you have to get past in order to fuck a swinging wife. Cheating husbands, do yourself a favor and think really hard about my point of view, because I'm the guy that you have to get through in order to get your dick into a swinging woman. You simply have no chance in my case and in the case of many other swinging husbands.
Cheaters, do yourself a favor and visit
The Erotic Review or
The Big Doggie. Those are sites that will tap you into a culture that supports and encourages the cheating husband. They are resources that will hook you up with really hot women that will be happy to fuck you without telling your wife about it. You'll have to pay for it, but that's the price of pursuing sex in an appropriate manner. For a married guy without a swinging wife, the appropriate way to go about extramarital sex is either illicit affairs or prostitution. It is
not appropriate for you to be fucking my wife. I personally could give a rat's ass whether you cheat on your wives or not, I just don't want you doing it by fucking my wife.
Hopefully my point of view as a swinging husband will make things slightly clearer for some cheating husbands. I'm hoping that at least some lurkers out there get something out of this. It would be nice to see the opinion from a swinging wife and maybe also from a swinging single woman on their specific reasons for not wanting to have anything to do with cheating husbands. When we give our ideological reasons for avoiding cheating guys we sound a little abstract. I'm trying to provide specific reasons that are unique to my position as a swinging husband.