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Originally Posted by lovemonkey#1 so here's my question: has anyone else ever felt like this after a session and if so, how did you deal with it? i know that eventually i'll get out of this but i just need some help putting things in perspective. i want to continue swinging but not if every little "failure" is going to make me feel like this. |
As I gaze into my crystal ball
I can see that you are going to get a lot of messages saying, "don't worry about it"! Please allow me to be the first!
It happens to everyone. If it hasn't, it will. Knowing that may not help you feel better now, but I would bet a lot that you will look back on this and laugh later on. For a completely worthless bit of philosophy from me, I try not to get wrapped around the axle about things that won't be important a year from now. I predict that you will feel better and get out of your slump in much, much less than a year. So a year from now this will be meaningless. A year from now you will look back and wonder what the big deal was. So,
I hereby give you permission not to worry about this!
Okay, I warned you that my bit of philosophy was worthless. But I really would try to think of it as a temporary problem that will go away on its own. There probably isn't much you can do to either shorten or lengthen the amount of time it will take; these things just work themselves out.
Don't worry that every little "failure" is going to make you feel like this. It happens to everyone, and the second time it happens you already know that it is a temporary issue, so you won't feel as bad. You will already know that it will be a non-issue. It sounds like you are already compensating by concentrating on oral for her. Nobody is going to throw you out of bed for that!