 Re: Help - do I tell him?
I say tell him. You never know, he may be totally turned on all over again once he finds out he just witnessed your first time with another woman.
Of course, there is a risk here, because you were untruthful. When you tell him you want to bring up a few important points:
1) You regret being dishonest with him, and you do not want to have a lie hanging between you. Being 100% upfront with him in all things is your highest priority.
2) You need to explain the reason that you told him the story. You saw that it turned him on, and you wanted to turn him on even more, so you fudged a little. Next thing you knew, the lie took on a life of its own and spiralled out of control.
3) You love him and value your relationship very much, and you don't want a stupid mistake to undermine it, so you're hoping that he can understand that you didn't lie to hurt him. It was a lapse of judgment, and you hope he can forgive you.
I don't know your SO at all, so it's hard to say how he'll react. If he's intensely insecure or has a temper, he might blow up at you...or pout. But hopefully, he's a big boy and appreciates your desire for honesty in your relationship and can let this mistake go. Good luck, and keep us posted, Kittii
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