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kittii · 04-04-2006, 12:43 PM

Hi All

Thanks for taking the time to read my message.

I have a bit of a dilema, and I was wondering if anyone might be able to give me some advice.

When my husband and I first started going out, he asked if I had been with woman before, as I seemed to get turned on by them (which I do and have always known that I was bi/bi curious even though I had not done anything with another woman before).

Well, I told him that I had been with another girl (a complete and utter lie i know). He got extremely turned on by this and started asking me questions, like what her name was, what did she look like, what did we do etc - so I made up this whole story about me and this other girl and what we did together.

As our relationship was progressing, we talked about what had happend between me and this 'other girl' and it became a feature in our sex life. We also talked about him seeing me with other men, and also having sex with other couples. Both of us are very open to trying different things sexually, and both enjoyed discussing the above senarios.

My husband and I then started looking at some swinging sites and decided to post some ads to see what would happen, off the back of what we had been discussing in bed etc.

Anyway, after much searching, chatting etc, last weekend we met up with a fantastic couple and ended up soft swinging with them, and for me it was great as it was my first ever time with another woman, and I enjoyed the experince emensly (as did my husband watching us!!). We are now looking to soft swing a couple of more times before full swapping.

My problem is do I now tell him after all this time, that last weekend was my first time ever with another woman, or do I not tell him at - all leaving him none the wiser. On one hand, I feel that we would have got into the swinging scene regardless of the fact that I lied, but on the other I feel wracked with guilt as I feel I should have been honest with him in the first place, as I haven't been able to share my true feelings about my first experience.

I know this has been a long winded post, but any suggestion, ideas, advice and help would be greatfully appreciated.

Kind regards

Kittii

x

04-04-2006, 12:43 PM	#1 (permalink)
kittii Registered User Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 2 Location: UK Status: Married Female	Lied to him in the past, do I tell him the truth now? Hi All Thanks for taking the time to read my message. I have a bit of a dilema, and I was wondering if anyone might be able to give me some advice. When my husband and I first started going out, he asked if I had been with woman before, as I seemed to get turned on by them (which I do and have always known that I was bi/bi curious even though I had not done anything with another woman before). Well, I told him that I had been with another girl (a complete and utter lie i know). He got extremely turned on by this and started asking me questions, like what her name was, what did she look like, what did we do etc - so I made up this whole story about me and this other girl and what we did together. As our relationship was progressing, we talked about what had happend between me and this 'other girl' and it became a feature in our sex life. We also talked about him seeing me with other men, and also having sex with other couples. Both of us are very open to trying different things sexually, and both enjoyed discussing the above senarios. My husband and I then started looking at some swinging sites and decided to post some ads to see what would happen, off the back of what we had been discussing in bed etc. Anyway, after much searching, chatting etc, last weekend we met up with a fantastic couple and ended up soft swinging with them, and for me it was great as it was my first ever time with another woman, and I enjoyed the experince emensly (as did my husband watching us!!). We are now looking to soft swing a couple of more times before full swapping. My problem is do I now tell him after all this time, that last weekend was my first time ever with another woman, or do I not tell him at - all leaving him none the wiser. On one hand, I feel that we would have got into the swinging scene regardless of the fact that I lied, but on the other I feel wracked with guilt as I feel I should have been honest with him in the first place, as I haven't been able to share my true feelings about my first experience. I know this has been a long winded post, but any suggestion, ideas, advice and help would be greatfully appreciated. Kind regards Kittii x