[VegasLee]

Any good host/hostess will remove anyone that is not asking before touching or that is not giving the players space to play while others are watching.

Sounds like your host is either new to giving parties or their parties are not for you. Next time they invite you explain to them that you will not be able to make it to the party since you are not comfortable with the things they allow to go on at thier parties. If you do it nicely then maybe they will wake up and take care of their parties.

Weather your husband was around to control things or not does not make up for some people having no class and not understanding the rules and common sense of a swing party. Anyone that tries to lay the blame on you for playing in front of others really has no idea about what this is all about. Surrender They only real signal is YES or NO by inviting them. Nothing is ever assumed.

Always best to talk to your hosts no matter where the party is and do it when it happens. Waiting like you have here makes it much harder to do anything about it.