[EvilMJ]

This is definately one of the most common problems/concerns I have seen broached since I have started visiting the board. If you do a search I bet you will pull up a lot of threads that tackle this very problem and may have some really good advice.

I can tell you this, when we first started into the lifestyle Hubby had the very same problem. It took some time to get over it as most of it was just a mental problem, he was taught that you are only supposed to have sex with your wife. The fact that he had his wife approval (or that she was in the room) just couldn't seem to get him past that block. Needless to say it took a lot of converastion and time but he did finally sort himself out and there haven't been any problems since. Just be understanding and willing to help him through what is a difficult subject for many men to talk about. I know as a woman it was easy for me to say to him that it was not a problem and he should not be concerned, but for him it effected his ego and prowess as man.

Good luck, I am sure you will find many others experiencing the very same thing.