[Mr. Better Half]

Swinging is all about open communication and extreme honesty. Normally when we say this, we are talking about communication and honesty between the members of a couple. For example, being able to say, "I want to have sex with other people" or "That guy really turns me on" requires an honesty that non-swingers (I believe) don't ever quite get. Why? Because I think most couples want to have sex with other people (basic human nature); they just have not yet reached the point in their relationship where they trust each other not to go ballistic when presented with a true statement.

What is interesting about your situation is that while your boyfriend is able to be honest with you, he cannot be honest with himself. To say that having sex with you is a sin, but he will still do it because he wants to, presents an internal inconsistency that would make most people very uncomfortable. More likely, part of him doesn't believe that it really is a sin (because it hurts no one) but he is unwilling to challenge his early religious upbringing. He is tricking himself, so to speak. If he can't be honest and open with himself and resolve this internal inconsistency, I'm not sure that he would be a good partner.

However, this is just my opinion. And I admit that hypocrisy is a pet peeve of mine. Preachers that condemn infidelity but get caught in affairs, politicians that condemn corruption and then get caught taking bribes, and yes, boyfriends that say sex outside of marriage is wrong but are perfectly willing to do it anyway.