 Re: boyfriend feeling guilt
Well...
It occurs to me that perhaps he should be working toward ridding himself of an irrational guilt, rather than giving up a perfectly good relationship. I'm not sure what his views are, or how open he is to changing his beliefs, but I can't understand how sex could be viewed as sinful. God created it! He told us to go forth, be fruitful and multiply! You can't accomplish the fruitful multiplication without some serious screwin'. I just don't understand what his reasoning is. I mean, sex is a very basic drive; it's there for a purpose. And in Romans 14, you'll read that "Nothing is unclean of itself." Which means that it's not so much what you do; it's who you hurt by it, and why you do it. So if he considers sex a sin, then for him, it is a sin, because he 'breaks the rules' in his own heart when he does it. For Mr. intuition and I, sex is perfectly natural and, I believe, acceptable in God's sight. What we do glorifies our marriage, which is holy. So by doing this, by extension, we honour God. We are diligently moderate and conscientious in our actions and do everything we reasonably can to be sure that our actions are not hurting anyone else. This feels perfectly right to us, and to behave otherwise, to go back to the strictly imposed monogamy - just for the sake of being monogamous - woud feel wrong to us. Not just uncomfortable, but actually wrong.
I think perhaps your boyfriend needs to ask himself some tough questions about his beliefs and be prepared to reconsider them. It's his life, but I just don't think that seeing sex as 'dirty' or 'sinful' is productive or healthy. Have you also tried communicating to him how his revelation made you feel?
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