 Re: should we tell?
Don't do it like we once did.
A friend once confided that his wife was unreasonably jealous. A Sunday-long conversation followed in which I used swinging as an example of how free couples could be without jealousy problems. I subsequently told him that we play, but there was no invitation. He and I agreed not to tell his wife about our conversation.
Two days later his wife 'phoned me in a rage! How dare I propose "wife-swapping" to them? They were good, Christian people! She would never have sex with anyone but her husband. (By the way, we had known her through two previous husbands and countless boyfriends.) She slammed down the phone and we haven't seen either of them since. Let's see... That was about ten years ago.
Here's how we'd try to bring up the subject without making anybody mad. We'd ask questions over a period of days, weeks or months, that couldn't be answered with "Yes" or "No," such as:
"How do y'all feel about Mexican Food?"
"How do y'all feel about Mayor LaFortune?"
"How do y'all feel about the Sooners chances this fall?"
"How do y'all feel about Dirty Dancing?"
"How do y'all feel about Swinging?"
If they don't take well to the subject, change it. "Just a thought about an article I once read. Not important... How do y'all feel about Mexican Food?"
If, however, they take well to the subject, you may have a whole new emphasis on a good friendship. Good Luck!
Mr. Alura
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