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MulderNScully · 03-12-2006, 03:12 PM

UPDATE!

We went out to a non-on premise party at a bar situatied in a motel just south of I75/70 in Dayton. I talked to Scully in between lines from DMB and sitting in our vechle about the whole thing. One: She doesn't mind playing together with another couple if the opportunity is right, heck she is fine if I find someome to play with while she's busy with the soft swap couple provided she gives the OK on the girl I'm going with. But she made it clear the female of the ss couple is exclusively hers to play with first and foremost;anyone else is icing on the cake when we play together.

TWO: Since she's got better insight about me and us she went on to proceed that the problem I'm having may have to do with being such a vouyer most of my life always wanting to be a part of it, but being able to compartmentalize everything so I didn't have to associate with the feelings involved. She feels the problems I'm having is because now I have opportunity to have fun with other people the little jealousy, intimindation, and other feelings tend to creep up and keeps me from just enjoying sex as a recreation and nothing else. I asked her was there a pill or treatment for it and her answer was "no, you got to fix your own head through this so you don't get hung up on all this."

THREE: I made it clear I would like to have fun too and she agreed as well. In fact, so long as she is open to it (which, I found out this weekend, she is more open and kinky than I ever imagine it's fine with her) and there's no issues with the person(s) involved.

What was cool is we had a great time with the couple we were with, had a great crowd and the meet and greet session, went to a "straight" dance club and let them get to see my inner "club kid" come out, had some hot times with Scully to the point where I want to get a few more moments with her before this weekend is out, and five, even had some sexy times with the other couple where I felt a bit more comfortable with them now that Scully and I talked it out.

I guess what I need to do is deal with the mental issues and emotions which tend to creep up (mainly as of lately, before I was fine) and get it in order so I can grow up a bit and be able to look at sex in the right context.

Mulder

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03-12-2006, 03:12 PM	#8 (permalink)
MulderNScully Here to Stay Join Date: Jul 2005 Posts: 53 Location: Dayton, Ohio Status: Couple/Single Male	Re: Soft swing couple with full swing intentions UPDATE! We went out to a non-on premise party at a bar situatied in a motel just south of I75/70 in Dayton. I talked to Scully in between lines from DMB and sitting in our vechle about the whole thing. One: She doesn't mind playing together with another couple if the opportunity is right, heck she is fine if I find someome to play with while she's busy with the soft swap couple provided she gives the OK on the girl I'm going with. But she made it clear the female of the ss couple is exclusively hers to play with first and foremost;anyone else is icing on the cake when we play together. TWO: Since she's got better insight about me and us she went on to proceed that the problem I'm having may have to do with being such a vouyer most of my life always wanting to be a part of it, but being able to compartmentalize everything so I didn't have to associate with the feelings involved. She feels the problems I'm having is because now I have opportunity to have fun with other people the little jealousy, intimindation, and other feelings tend to creep up and keeps me from just enjoying sex as a recreation and nothing else. I asked her was there a pill or treatment for it and her answer was "no, you got to fix your own head through this so you don't get hung up on all this." THREE: I made it clear I would like to have fun too and she agreed as well. In fact, so long as she is open to it (which, I found out this weekend, she is more open and kinky than I ever imagine it's fine with her) and there's no issues with the person(s) involved. What was cool is we had a great time with the couple we were with, had a great crowd and the meet and greet session, went to a "straight" dance club and let them get to see my inner "club kid" come out, had some hot times with Scully to the point where I want to get a few more moments with her before this weekend is out, and five, even had some sexy times with the other couple where I felt a bit more comfortable with them now that Scully and I talked it out. I guess what I need to do is deal with the mental issues and emotions which tend to creep up (mainly as of lately, before I was fine) and get it in order so I can grow up a bit and be able to look at sex in the right context. Mulder (MulderNScully)