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Originally Posted by hilltop Swinging (or any other absolute) can't be a criteria for a relationship. It can only be one small part of the whole. |
On this, I beg to differ with you. An interest in
ANY activity or criteria can be a prerequisite for a relationship, if a person decides that's what's important to
them. That's why groups such as "Christian Singles," "Jewish Singles," "Parents Without Partners, " etc. are in existence....those things are important to the members of those groups. "Must Love Dogs" isn't just a movie title...it's a
requirement, for people who want to date people who just happen to love dogs.
That's important here, because the common interest that originally brought these two people together was swinging, and because it's virtually impossible for one person in a relationship to be a swinger unless their partner actively supports that interest.
How important being a "swinger" (or being Christian, or Jewish, or a single parent) is, or should be, to a relationship is something that could be debated all day long. The fact is, that to
this guy, it WAS important...important enough that he went to a swingers website, and not to a vanilla one, to meet women.
He
is, or wants to be. She
isn't, and doesn't want to be. Why do people try so hard to make things "fit," when there obviously isn't a connection on something as important as this?