 Re: Sharing is Caring?
You met this guy on a "sex and swingers website," and now, after investing considerable time and effort into this relationship, you've decided that you don't want to swing after all?
That's the kind of shit that drives guys crazy.
Some people say they would have no problem walking away from swinging if their partners asked them to. Other people say it's a deal-breaker, and that if their partners won't swing, they'll go outside the marriage to find someone who does.
My guess is that this is a deal-breaker for him. If the swinging isn't, the duplicity should be.
There's a lot of talk in here about the importance of "honesty in a relationship." You weren't being honest with this guy or with yourself when you posted your ad on a swingers website.
Speaking of honesty, let's be honest about why most single women post ads on adult/swinger websites in the first place. It's because they get more responses there than they do from vanilla sites...TONS more. But if that's why you did it, and you need that much "bait" to attract men, the problems with whatever relationships may ensue may not be rooted in your "insecurities about swinging," but elswhere.
When you chum the waters, you get sharks. Next time, try one hook, one worm, and a little patience. Single guys and would-be swingers everywhere will thank you.
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