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Originally Posted by midnite_madness How do you make that go away? I know rationally that he's not going to leave or fall in love with the other woman... but emotionally it seems like a hurdle taller than I can surmount...  |
I'm so sorry that you're in this situation!
You don't make it go away. These are feelings that you have to work with and through. No matter how much your partner reassures you it isn't something that he can put to rest.
Swinging (or any other absolute) can't be a criteria for a relationship. It can only be one small part of the whole. As the previous posters have said, work on what the two of you have and then come back to the swinging issue. If he is willing to let the rest go by the wayside over this one thing then you may have to come to terms with moving on. Don't get into swinging as a way to keep your relationship together. It will only come apart later in a much larger way!
Good luck! I hope you'll be able to work it out.