Sadly, Chicup has a lot of company out there. He's more of a rarity in the fact he's at least upfront about his feelings. Over the internet, anyway.
M and K, you're indeed a rarity yourselves, being HWP and not looking for just those who are the same. Reading through ads, it almost never fails -- those who can't wait to describe themselves as such invariably go out of their way to make it clear no overweight couples need apply. And that's been my point all along. In all faucets of society there are cliques, and swinging's no different. It is NOT just a matter of physical size, characteristics, and personal tastes, it's almost a case of class warfare. The office powerbrokers won't mix with trailer trash. The thoroughbreds won't shag the old nags. Any number of analogies will do, they're all relevant.
Nearly two years ago we went to a lifestyle dance, with a valentine's theme. It was held in a city about two hours from home, and as luck would have it, we ended up at a table with two "pretty" couples. Oh joy. Anyway, as the four of them were engrossed in conversation, I happened to overhear one couple was from the same town we live in. I interjected with "say, you live in **** too? He shot me an annoyed look, said yes, and immediately turned his back on us, effectively shutting us out of any more possible conversation.
Dan
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