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Originally posted by avgcpl4u
Hi Julie and Everyone Else!
We're a married couple that has been in the lifestyle maybe going on 3 years now. I have something that has always bothered me regarding my wife and I when we go to swingers parties. My dilemma is that my wife is pretty much an average weight and size but as for myself, I'm like 5'10" 250lbs more on the heavy boned type of a guy. I've always been between 235-250lbs most of my life after 25yrs old. And I have noticed that everytime we go to a swingers party, people be asking my wife to play, but not myself?? And when my wife says we come as a "package deal", they say "see ya" under their breath. So we stand in the corner all night by our selves.
Other people friends have told me not to worry about it, that you'll find the right people that'll except you for the way you are. But being a little heavy still haunts me.
So, I was wondering if anybody else outhere in swingers land has the same hang up that I do?????
Any reponds would be most appreciated!!
Avgcpl4u |
Ohhhh Lord, where do I start?
Actually, we're just the opposite of you and your wife. In our case, I've been a bodybuilder for over 20 years, while my wife is the one who's been fighting a weight problem most of her adult life. I feel for ya, big guy, because we've spent the past 3 and a half years swimming upstream trying to find couples who are capable of looking past the scales and into our personalities. More times than I can count, we've begun corresponding with a couple via email, and once I make certain they're aware my wife is considered a BBW, they're gone like smoke in the wind. Ditto with the club scene. Almost without exception, any couples who've approached us in the swing club we go to invariably have an overweight woman as well. Nothing wrong with that per say, but it does cut your prospects considerably. And needless to say, reading through ads is disheartening at best. You learn to hate those words "height, weight porportional".
If you're interested, check out the thread in this section titled "The body beautiful", started by yours truly. It pretty much sums up our abject frustrations with the weight/swinging issue.
Dan