[Ofrdcple]

That's a tough question. The current Mrs and my ex are very attracted to each other. So I could see us and my ex and her husband ending up in bed. But that is fourteen years later and a little different scenario. Right after a recent split? That involves so many variables that only you can figure this one out. Will it slow you from moving on? Will it open you to being hurt? And about a million more questions you need to examine. After you answer all of them, then go back and make sure you're not lying to yourself. Everyone lies to himself or herself sometime.

For safety sake you probably shouldn't. You probably won't believe this now, but he's not the last great lover you will have. And the longer you stay around him, the longer it will take to find another. When the ex and I split, it took almost three years till I got into the relationship I'm in now. And though at the time I felt the same way you do now, I'm with someone that for me the ex can't start to compete with. For those three years I had a great time with some great female friends. And it was a time I needed to be on my own. I think it was almost two years that the ex and I didn't speak a single word. Now we are friends. We talk and go out pretty regularly. (And I don't use the word friend lightly) We are even at a point where I could see her and her husband and us in bed as not impossible.

Just remember to have faith in yourself. Nobody really needs anyone else. But you will find someone you want really badly again. Having any kind of sex with him might be a way for you to keep him or you from moving on. Maybe that's the right thing for now. Maybe it's not. Sounds to me you need to figure out in your heart whether it is truly over with you two or not. Good luck, and whatever you do, realize your heart and your head might be at odds. And who knows witch one is ever right? (Both of mine have made some bad decisions in my life! LOL)

Mr Ofrdcple (Who can still remember the mess my head was in, fourteen years after the fact!)