[jnaswinging]

This message was posted by chinadoll...I accidentally used a different username. Sorry for the confusion!!

Well, to answer your questions, it seems that hubby found the website from looking around on the net. It is a common website, so I am sure that it was easy to find. He did tell me that he created a profile on a site, but I didn't think much of it. One night I was taking a nap, and woke up and he said he was talking to the man in the other relationship, and to look. I did and I talked to him for a bit. I didn't really know much about the site and hadn't even seen it yet. He had a profile on there for about a week or so before I knew of it. He never really showed it to me until I woke up that night and he was talking to the other guy. When we were at the bar last night, the other lady mentioned that her hubby had created a profile on the same site and when she got home one night, he says "Look what I did honey!" then he showed her the profile he created. This was mentioned in passing and I am not sure how he found the site.
As far as alienating them as potential partners, I am not so sure that is a bad idea since she went behind my back also, it seems I can't trust her either. If that's the case, do I really want these people as friends? Let alone partners.
I do feel that it isn't fair that the man in the other couple doesn't know about any of this, but I don't feel that it's my place to say anything. I don't know if they are the type of people that are able to sit down and have a civilized conversation about this either. So I don't know how I would feel about asking them to dinner to talk about all this. I would really like for him to know, he feels the same way about this lifestyle. That it should be done as a couple and there should be no secrets or lies. It doesn't seem right either that she should be able to go behind my back and her bf's, and not have to suffer any consequences either.