 Re: Did hubby go too far?
Who's idea was it to start swinging and how did you get directed to the website you signed up for? If you had little or no input into that, then I would be extremely interested to talk to the other husband about how they became interested. But I would want to do it all right out in the open with the 4 of you present. Still, you can't just come out with the other couple about what your suspicions are. If they are unfounded, you would probably just alienate them as potential partners.
You could meet for dinner and casually bring up those questions. If he says that it was all her idea, then you may be onto something with your suspicions.
Or, you could just let it go as a lesson learned in communication - especially if you don't feel strongly that something was going on prior to your signing up and meeting them on line. Yet you might always wonder: "Was it my imagination or was it just bad judgement on his part?" - Frankly, I would have a problem with this woman agreeing to meet him without you, no matter how nice she turned out to be. That makes her a little untrustworthy to begin with. You could always tell your husband that you could have difficulty playing with them based on that issue, and that you need to find another couple. See how he reacts. (Hey, we have feminine wiles, why not use them?)
In any event, I would try to sort it out before you decide to progress with this couple (or any couple) as swing partners. And I would cover the "rules" once again. If your husband just made an honest mistake, he may take a lot of training prior to your going forward with swinging.
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