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Originally Posted by intuition897 Reverse the sexes. Would the advice change somewhat? If it was him breaking the rules without prior discussion, would he get a break? Probably not. I agree that Mr. sexycouple's feelings should not be dismissed as trivial or unfounded; the fact remains that they walked into the club with pre-arranged and firmly set boundaries. The deal was that these rules would not change without being discussed outside of a swinging situation. This didn't happen. Getting "caught up in the moment" doesn't cut it. |
I both agree and disagree with intuition897. If the situation were reversed, the guy would be verbally castrated by many people for breaking the rules.
However, As anyone who has been in swinging for any length of time knows, people CAN get caught up in the "heat of the moment". Does that make it right...no. But it does happen.
Mrs. DD and I have a set of general guidelines rather than hard and fast rules (snicker...he said hard and fast
) When we started, we found that the rules we had set for ourselves were too restrictive and couldn't address many of the situations we were in. Now, we try to be mindful of each other's feelings when we are at a party, and we DO talk about things, especially if they make one of us uncomfortable.