[chinadoll]

Hi all. I just wanted to say that I am so happy I found this board. It has been a huge help. I do have a problem I am sorry to say, and I need some advice....We are new to swinging (I am the female in the marriage)...very new and had only talked to one couple online a few times and over the phone. We agreed to meet them last night, and I liked them and so did my other half. I found out yesterday before we went to meet them though, that my hubby went behind my back, and has talked to the female of the other couple over the phone a few times, online, and they met in person!! He says they didn't do anything, he just wanted to put a face with the name and voice. He met her on this last Friday... then we just went and met them as a couple last night (which was Sunday). I went through with meeting them last night knowing that hubby had already met her (the other lady) and I was so mad that I was going to blow it all out of the water at our meeting. Then I thought better of it. Then, as it turned out, I actually like the other couple. So, needless to say, I feel hurt and betrayed to say the least. After the other couple left last night, I approached hubby about the situation while still at the bar, and we talked about it. I started the conversation with..."Do you have something you want to tell me about you and (other lady)?" He denied at first...then admitted. I guess he met her while I was at the doctor's office. He could have been with me on that day for support instead. He must have called her the immediately after I walked out the door. I still have questions for him, but I have a problem now believing anything he says. I have trust issues with people after they lie to me. So, any thoughts on what to do here? All advise is greatly appreciated as I am really in agony here.