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She_n_Jaybee · 02-13-2006, 03:22 PM

This "mole hill" is just loaded with issues. The first one that comes to mind for me is the drinking. I see it on a regular basis, one or both of a couple end up getting too drunk for anything to work out right. The guy gets too drunk to get it up, or the girl gets too drunk to realize that she's out of control. My advice is to play sober, or at least to limit the amount you drink. Makes rules easier to follow and transgressions easier to deal with.

VegasLee has a very good point. Don't keep score. In the party or club environment you can't choreograph an encounter. That's part of the appeal for us. We go to a club never knowing what will happen, or who it will happen with. Whatever happens is spontaneous, making the experience even more thrilling. Seems to me you have set in your mind exactly what your ffm 3some will be like. If so, write it all down, call around the local escort services, find out the cost and buy your experience. It probably won't be the best encounter, but at least you might be able to get everyone to follow your script.

As for you getting upset because your GF was in the ladies room for 10 minutes... You might want to do anything and everything to keep her happy. Most of the women I've known have a difficult time going to the restroom in less than 10 minutes. Especially if they have someone to talk to. When we go out to a club and I see some woman that my She is interested in head towards the ladies room, I'll tell her to "go get her". It's an opportunity for the women to decide if they have any chemistry without us guys trying to push our own agenda.

Lastly, seems to me you're trying to have everything all at once. Wanting your GF to have her first bi experience, while having her first 3some, while you are having your first 3some is a tall order. Let her have some time with a woman, get truly comfortable being with another woman, then she will have a chance to really enjoy a 3some. And you might enjoy watching her without the pressure of trying to see everything, keep everyone satisfied and perform as well.

jaybee (with significant input from She)

02-13-2006, 03:22 PM	#5 (permalink)
She_n_Jaybee Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Feb 2006 Posts: 202 Location: SW Indiana Status: Couple	Re: Am I making a moutain out of mole hill??? This "mole hill" is just loaded with issues. The first one that comes to mind for me is the drinking. I see it on a regular basis, one or both of a couple end up getting too drunk for anything to work out right. The guy gets too drunk to get it up, or the girl gets too drunk to realize that she's out of control. My advice is to play sober, or at least to limit the amount you drink. Makes rules easier to follow and transgressions easier to deal with. VegasLee has a very good point. Don't keep score. In the party or club environment you can't choreograph an encounter. That's part of the appeal for us. We go to a club never knowing what will happen, or who it will happen with. Whatever happens is spontaneous, making the experience even more thrilling. Seems to me you have set in your mind exactly what your ffm 3some will be like. If so, write it all down, call around the local escort services, find out the cost and buy your experience. It probably won't be the best encounter, but at least you might be able to get everyone to follow your script. As for you getting upset because your GF was in the ladies room for 10 minutes... You might want to do anything and everything to keep her happy. Most of the women I've known have a difficult time going to the restroom in less than 10 minutes. Especially if they have someone to talk to. When we go out to a club and I see some woman that my She is interested in head towards the ladies room, I'll tell her to "go get her". It's an opportunity for the women to decide if they have any chemistry without us guys trying to push our own agenda. Lastly, seems to me you're trying to have everything all at once. Wanting your GF to have her first bi experience, while having her first 3some, while you are having your first 3some is a tall order. Let her have some time with a woman, get truly comfortable being with another woman, then she will have a chance to really enjoy a 3some. And you might enjoy watching her without the pressure of trying to see everything, keep everyone satisfied and perform as well. jaybee (with significant input from She)