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Originally Posted by just1gurl ya'll just aren't helping at all. 
you're still refering to mysterious rules that I don't know.
Now, reading some of the posts made me laugh my butt off today, great exercise! as I realized what you were saying in one respect - Ha! ha ha. There is the word even!!!!
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It's these mysterious rules everyone refers to. . .
could someone share some of theres so I can understand this more?
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Actually I thought I was rather succinct and implicit. I even gave a case study example!
You still seem confused, so I will put on my business like demeanor and answer (apology up front ... I am
very CEO boardroom).
I think what you are looking for is the rules for a single woman... and you are asking couples about "their" rules.
They are animals of the same species but not the same genus.
A. Rules are the set of agreed upon boundaries defined differently by each couple (and or single). They are in some cases rigid and in others malleable. They are a living document (like the U.S. Constitution or the law) and change with experience and need. But, like the constitution, change is not frivolous or immediate… it is negotiated and debated and voted upon before it is adopted.
B. Rules are based on the inherent likes and dislikes of the individual couples. For example, preferences for, or against bi contact; full swing (which is everyone changes partners and dances); soft swing (which is foreplay and/or oral contact only) etc…etc…
C. I would suggest you sit down and write out what your personal rules are. You need to know the parameters of your behavior going in also… so you can decide if you are a good match for each other.
Why? Well, if all you are concerned about is a big phallus and you never bother to tell them anal is not ok with you… you could find out it is the “thing” for him and be very, very hurt the next day in more than one way. Or if you are bi, but do not want to be with this particular couple ( she may not be your type)...
How are they to know, if you never
COMMUNICATED YOUR PREFERANCE?
Questions to ask yourself:
1. Do you want to be with only the woman?
2. Do you want contact with only the man?
3. Are you bi or bi-picky?
4. Do you do anal?
5. Do you have a size preference? (phallus or height)
6. Are you interested in single men?
7. Where are you willing to meet people?
9. Do you “Play” on the first date?
10. Are you interested in just play or do you want to form a pair bond with one specific couple? (ie. be exclusive with them…like a third person in the marriage)
11. Do you ask for proof someone has no STD’s ? ( yes, there are people out there playing with Herpes).
12. Do your require a picture of both of them "together" before you will correspond or play?
Other than that …look at my first post… basically
BE HONEST do not lie about your weight, or contact one member of the couple behind the back of the other,
COURT THEM AS A COUPLE… never try to break them up and take one for yourself… and flirt like hell.
Know one thing... you are flirting like hell for the priveldge of one night or however many encounters with this couple ( and they with you)... not for the purpose of obtaining a mate... SEE IT CLEARLY.
DO NOT MAKE THE MISTAKE OF ASSUMING IT IS ANYTHING MORE THAN THAT..IT IS ABOUT... PLAY...NOT LOVE.
Is that what you wanted to know?
~Cat …on a hot tin roof.