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Originally Posted by lovedoctor If you are unable to share him with another woman due to jealousy, yet you are with another man, you may not really be ready to swing. |
i disagree with this statement. my husband and i are in the lifestyle with a specific set of 'rules'. one of which includes me being with another male (his request and i oblige). however, i have told him i am not to the point of being comfortable with him being w/ another woman. and if he's not ok with that, we should not be doing ANYTHING in the lifestyle. and i'm fine w/ that. it really is a matter of communicating your likes/dislikes/rules/boundaries, etc. BEFORE you the situation arises. as long as you agree on the rules, you are ok. if you both agree to the rules (whether that's allowing ONLY males or ONLY females or ONLY couples as long as both people get to play or whatever), there shouldn't be an issue.
i think he DID overstep his boundaries. i think he DID have too much to drink. and i think having been a little more forthcoming w/ how you really felt at the time would have been best.