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Old 02-09-2006, 09:19 PM   #14 (permalink)
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Default Re: what exactly is it?

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Originally Posted by Thrax
If not, I try to convince someone (or them) to change the rules.
This would be a HUGE turn off for us. It is important that we are respected enough for it to be assumed that we have our boundaries for a reason (and have thought long and hard enough about them that we aren't going to "sold" off of them).

We have changed our rules - but only after we were 100% sure that the people we were playing with respected our rules; never because they asked us to change them. When someone treats us with respect, we are more comfortable to bend our rules (of our own accord) - when someone challenges our boundaries, we are more likely to respond defensively.

Be very careful about asking a couple to change their rules - that is an excellent example of "disrespect" and isn't likely to go over particularly well.

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