[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by just1gurl

What I know- we are coming together for unrestricted - consensual sex with peoples' partners. This is agreed. What part is it that crosses the line?

Dynamar is correct, this is a darn good question about r-e-s-p-e-c-t.

I put that word "unrestricted" in bold because I disagree with that part of your statement. I think swinging has all kinds of restrictions; they are commonly referred to as "rules" or "guidelines" couples set and agree to follow. These include what they expect from each other and from the swingers they play with.

Here is where the respect comes in - if somebody doesn't adhere to the rules, that's disrespectful.

As you continue to read the Board you'll see a husband or wife post about how their spouse didn't play by the rules and because of this they feel they've been wronged and disrespected. The same can happen from play partners who don't follow the rules that were agreed upon ahead of time.

For this reason communication is so highly stressed in the lifestyle.

From my experience - the brain is the best sex organ a guys got. I love to mess with their brains. But you know a little flirting is to boost the old ego! Thats a real necessity to them, just from my experience. tickle their grey matter.....

I don't want them to fall in love, I don't want to take them home (unless we were all going) but this play to get the juices flowing, would that be construed to be misleading, um, or to make jealousies boil etc? I'd look for honest things I'd admire about the person, and the desire to make them feel good, and special! -- just rubbing the naughty bits to me is a dis-service to the act of fun. I'd imagine though everyone may be different on what it is that would create problems.

Exactly. And this is where it gets more complicated. Because there are always going to be couples who have issues between themselves that you have no knowledge of, you may end up upsetting them. Jealousy is a biggy in swinging. Just as you said, you like stroking the brain matter and making a man feel good. Some women don't know how to do that to their own husbands, and when another woman comes along who is good at it, they may be upset.

Swinging is not simple. It's complicated, unless, as I've heard it said on the Board by some members, it's only about fucking.

For me it's more than that.

Could ya'll share your thoughts on creating an intimate atmosphere but that doesn't "threaten" relationships?

seems like it could be treacherous grounds?

You learn as you go along. I think the more people you meet the better you get at knowing who likes to swing the way you do, and those are the people you will be happiest with.

If you like being intimate with your playmates, be that way. You've got to be yourself when swinging or you won't enjoy it. I'm presuming you want respect from the people you swing with. It's been said many times but I'll say it again; treat others as you would like them to treat you and that's the best you can do to give others respect.

LM