[EvilMJ]

THere are two problems here...swinging while drinking too much, it tends to impare your judgment and make you do things you normaly might not. Two, bad communication, he heard you say I don't care and assumed you meant, hey I don't care go ahead. Can't blame a guy for taking you at your word, and while you may feel he cheated on you, you gave him the go ahead.

It seems to me that you have to voice your concerns honestly to him, as Ves said, when he asked you should have said NO, I am not comfortable with that. It is bad enough to send a mixed signal, but it is worse when there is drinking involved.

As far as couples expecting certain things when you play with them, if you are up front with them as to what you guys want and don't want then there is no cause for concern. THere is no one way to swing, and there are lots of people who have different preferences, it is just a matter of finding them.

I think you two need to have a talk, using this as a learning experience, put away your accusations and find a new starting point, determining what you are both comfortable with, and go from there.