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Old 02-06-2006, 09:22 PM   #2 (permalink)
Vespertine
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Default Re: Husband crossed the line on what was agreed...

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Originally Posted by vcpl73
Does anyone have any words of advice?
Yeah...

Don't be evasive when it comes to your wants and your want nots.

When he asked you if he could go down on her, you should have been honest and assertive with what you were/were not comfortable with. If you didn't want that to happen... you should have said "No".

"I don't care" is not "No". To a horny guy with a few drinks in him, caught up in a sexual enviornment... that's a most definite "Yes".

You have to communicate better. You can't assume your husband will read between the lines and know exactly what you mean. He -did- ask permission... so I don't see what he did as cheating.

You need to discuss with your husband that when you're in the middle of playtime, you can't put rules on the table to discuss. Rules shouldn't be changed in the heat of the moment. This is a good way to avoid mistakes and hurt feelings in the future.

As far as his loss of erection goes, it happens to a lot of guys when they first begin to swing. Maybe he picked up on your animosity towards him for crossing a line with a woman you weren't ready for him to cross yet?
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