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Originally Posted by janaandjames There is a fine line someplace about expectations.
when we were looking for singles guys for MFM, i would feel that if we actually met, i was obligated to let him have his way with me .. took some reassurances and meeting a couple of jerks to get over that 
but as long as you are honest, youre never obligated.. |
Jana,
While I agree with you in principle, I'm looking at this from the newbie viewpoint. If their first experience isn't at least decent, it could be their last experience. All of us that have met someone in person we first met online recognize one basic truth; people seldom live up to their online persona. I've been meeting people from online contacts for 15 years (starting with local BBS groups in San Diego in '91), maybe as many as 1000 people. OUt of those, maybe 5% exceeded my expectations, another 15% met, or came close to them. If that first "meet & greet", I went to so long ago, hadn't gone well, it would probably have been my last.
So, I still believe the club route is a gentler introduction to swinging than one-on-one (technically either 2 on 2, or 1 on 1 on 1 on 1 facelick ).
jaybee