The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Interested but worried about what happens after the first time

She_n_Jaybee · 02-04-2006, 06:25 PM

If you've read my posts (and aren't completely sick of them), you'll notice I keep coming back to the clubs theme. We think they are a great way to venture into this lifestyle. You don't have to worry about offending others if you have cold feet. You can sit back watch, have whatever level of involvement you desire and are comfortable with and everyone is fine with that. The other route is to meet up with another couple in the area. My problems with that as an introduction are: 1. What if there is only a one-way attraction there? Can lead to hurt feelings and awkardness. 2. If you get cold feet can hurt feelings. The other couple might have expectations and may have passed up other opportunities for you. 3. You're on someone's home turf. This can make the visitors a bit uncomfortable and can make the hosts feel an extra obligation even if they have no real interest.

The club puts you on a more level field. You're not obligated to anyone and there are plenty of options.

02-04-2006, 06:25 PM	#13 (permalink)
She_n_Jaybee Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Feb 2006 Posts: 202 Location: SW Indiana Status: Couple	Re: new and with no experience would love some help If you've read my posts (and aren't completely sick of them), you'll notice I keep coming back to the clubs theme. We think they are a great way to venture into this lifestyle. You don't have to worry about offending others if you have cold feet. You can sit back watch, have whatever level of involvement you desire and are comfortable with and everyone is fine with that. The other route is to meet up with another couple in the area. My problems with that as an introduction are: 1. What if there is only a one-way attraction there? Can lead to hurt feelings and awkardness. 2. If you get cold feet can hurt feelings. The other couple might have expectations and may have passed up other opportunities for you. 3. You're on someone's home turf. This can make the visitors a bit uncomfortable and can make the hosts feel an extra obligation even if they have no real interest. The club puts you on a more level field. You're not obligated to anyone and there are plenty of options.