Gee Intuition, you should have just drove on to Reno.
I think the three biggest mistakes we made at first were.
1. We had way to many rules, it quickly became apparent that a lot of our boundries just weren't workable if we intended to be able to loosen up and have fun at this.
2. At first we thought it would be really hard to find willing play partners so we weren't very particular. We both ended up "taking one for the team" because of this which culminated one night when on the way home discussing the evening we realized we had both taken one for the team with the same couple thinking the other was really into their partner. We have since become more particular about our play partners and have learned to communicate better before agreeing to play.
3. Be very careful who you confide in about being a swinger. We learned the hard way that it is real easy to confide in the wrong vanilla (non swinging) friend and become the topic of the week in the gossip circle.