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intuition897 · 01-31-2006, 07:51 PM

Cute Spoo.

Newbie mistakes... hmmm...

Well here are some of the first few things we learned the hard way, and we learned them all at the same time.

1) Don't meet a couple at home for dinner with their kids there on your first meeting.
2) The OTHER couple's relationship is just as important as yours.
3) If the other couple can't be civil and respectful of each other, do you really want to hand YOUR spouse over to their charms for the evening? I think not...
4) Come up with a 'yea or nay' code to communicate discretely with one another. Ordering a tequila shooter (which tends to make your panties fall off) might be the thumbs-up, while ordering beer (which makes you puke) tells your partner "I'd rather roll in horseshit before I'd have sex with this clown. We're outta here." It could be a phrase, a particular topic you discuss, a gesture... whatever you like. Just make sure you can recognize it and others can't.
5) Don't travel 9 hours for a first meet-up.

There's soooo much more, but you can read the book.

You know how your driving instructor told you to drive defensively? Well my advice is, "Swing defensively." That doesn't mean you don't have to be courteous and charming, it just means don't assume anything! People can be really weird about sex.

01-31-2006, 07:51 PM	#36 (permalink)
intuition897 Canadian, eh? Join Date: Sep 2004 Posts: 2,613 Location: Kingston, ON Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:intuition897	Re: newbie mistakes Cute Spoo. Newbie mistakes... hmmm... Well here are some of the first few things we learned the hard way, and we learned them all at the same time. 1) Don't meet a couple at home for dinner with their kids there on your first meeting. 2) The OTHER couple's relationship is just as important as yours. 3) If the other couple can't be civil and respectful of each other, do you really want to hand YOUR spouse over to their charms for the evening? I think not... 4) Come up with a 'yea or nay' code to communicate discretely with one another. Ordering a tequila shooter (which tends to make your panties fall off) might be the thumbs-up, while ordering beer (which makes you puke) tells your partner "I'd rather roll in horseshit before I'd have sex with this clown. We're outta here." It could be a phrase, a particular topic you discuss, a gesture... whatever you like. Just make sure you can recognize it and others can't. 5) Don't travel 9 hours for a first meet-up. There's soooo much more, but you can read the book. You know how your driving instructor told you to drive defensively? Well my advice is, "Swing defensively." That doesn't mean you don't have to be courteous and charming, it just means don't assume anything! People can be really weird about sex. __________________ Fear is a symptom of ignorance. Knowledge is the cure.