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jaydee555 · 01-31-2006, 02:57 AM

I can feel his pain. I went through this a few times. I loved the play, but afterwards there was guilt feelings. It was like going from a high, to a low in 12 hours. I guess I contributed my lows to how I was taught growing up. I kept telling myself it was wrong, but after a few days, it subsided and I was willing to forego another encounter. After a few times I gave way to my desires and put the guilt behind me. I fought this myself, but that was me.

We did start out slow, and the first time didn't bother me. (Soft swing with no intercourse) It was the second time when the intercourse was involved, did I have 2nd thoughts, and it sort of shook my foundation.

I think that you should consider all avenues of help, that appear in this post. Each suggestion has valid points. I know many people go through this, and it can be a make it, or break it point. My wife and I talked it over for hours on end, and it made me feel better knowing that we were both going to decide our next move together. Right or wrong it was a mutual agreement. Communication with my wife, is what got me through the tough times. It has been our rock, and salvation for 36 years. 30 of those years, have been spent sharing intimate encounters with other people. I can honestly say, I haven't regretted a single one.

We wish you both the best of luck.

01-31-2006, 02:57 AM	#6 (permalink)
jaydee555 Active Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 22 Location: Illinois Status: Coulpe	Re: Help with Husband's Conflict I can feel his pain. I went through this a few times. I loved the play, but afterwards there was guilt feelings. It was like going from a high, to a low in 12 hours. I guess I contributed my lows to how I was taught growing up. I kept telling myself it was wrong, but after a few days, it subsided and I was willing to forego another encounter. After a few times I gave way to my desires and put the guilt behind me. I fought this myself, but that was me. We did start out slow, and the first time didn't bother me. (Soft swing with no intercourse) It was the second time when the intercourse was involved, did I have 2nd thoughts, and it sort of shook my foundation. I think that you should consider all avenues of help, that appear in this post. Each suggestion has valid points. I know many people go through this, and it can be a make it, or break it point. My wife and I talked it over for hours on end, and it made me feel better knowing that we were both going to decide our next move together. Right or wrong it was a mutual agreement. Communication with my wife, is what got me through the tough times. It has been our rock, and salvation for 36 years. 30 of those years, have been spent sharing intimate encounters with other people. I can honestly say, I haven't regretted a single one. We wish you both the best of luck.