[intuition897]

Cain asked, "Am I my brother's keeper?" If you ask me, he was supposed to be.

We're obviously in different camps: Keepers and Non-Keepers. Hey, it may not be my business to actually LIVE somebody's life for them, but it doesn't stop me from pulling someone out of traffic when I see they're about to get hit with an emotional tractor-trailer. Just because you don't see the scars doesn't mean they're not there. It's the emotional shit that really screws people up, not just physical damage. And what happens when people get all fucked up? They make life miserable for themselves AND the rest of us.

And BTW, there's a big difference between dishonesty and tact. There are a lot of ungenerous comments (AKA "truths") I could make about that last segment of your post, but really...what would it get us but a lot of hard feelings? I will say that those "truths" are irrelevant, and that bringing them up serves no purpose other than to make someone feel like shit. So, as my Momma taught me, if you can't say anything nice, you don't say anything at all. But there are some issues/realities that are important to bring up and deal with, like sexual compatibility, dissatisfaction, intimacy issues, infatuations and emotional attachments outside the relationship and the like... It is unfair to not give your equal partner the dignity of a choice.