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Originally Posted by JnCC I'm reminded of a guy who's wearing a colostomy bag...it ain't pretty, but it's what he needs to get through the day. The last thing he needs is me or anybody else telling him how repulsive he is.
As for whether or not you've "joined the lifestyle," or joined "cheaters of America," that's easy. Go to the guys website, click on one of the lifestyle clubs who advertise there, and tell them that you're married, planning a visit to Las Vegas, and would like to visit their club without your wife present. It doesn't matter what he says...if they take your money (and I've never known a club that wouldn't) you're "joining the lifestyle." |
your comparison does not hold water at all. One is a "requirment" and one is a choice. Apples and oranges here.
Yep, all clubs will take their money. Let him tell people he is there without his wife and he finds that the club becomes a spectator sport for him. I see it many times each week.
Finding someone that works for you in your married life means working at it. Not just marrying for the sake of getting married. Honesty up front helps alot also but seems that most of the "regular" folks don't seem to think honesty is as important as the ones of us that have found great relationships.
Our lifestyle would go a long way to lowering the divorce rate even if they did not have sex with others. Trust, honesty seems to fix many things in life but most of the people in the world can not deal on that level.
Even the ones that are kidding theirself they are doing the right thing for the "sake of their family".