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mystic · 01-24-2006, 01:52 AM

'm feeling fucking amazing after my first time at that toastmasters meeting. Not quite in bliss, but quite great. I made a ton of friends tonight. Yes, I came off as weird to one of the hotter girls, but meh. I found a great place to me and I was invited to go swing dancing by a girl! Yay! She has a boyfriend and stuff though, but meh. She seems like she's a cool girl and will make a nice friend. Her name is L**** and she's 27. She used to be so shy apparantly in university when she got her masters in chemical engineering but now she's doing great. She's been going since november and already a huge improvement.

I met this indian guy named C**** who is 24 and has been going to this thing for 6 years. He's like very funny and extroverted but used to be a computer science geek like myself. Now he dropped computers and went into health care. He's like really cool! And he gave me a ride home and stayed over for a few hours after the beach (a bar).

I stayed at the club for like 2-3 hours and talked with everyone!!!! I met a Rush fan named J***. He's a big rush fan and older guy (probably 45 or 50) but I really liked him. We joked that I was a leaf's fan and he was a red wing's fan. It's funny because we had to clap in the meeting anytime someone said the world "limelight" and we all had to say some story using the word. He actually went before me and mentioned Rush first even those I was planning to since I couldn't think of anything else.

I met a guy named K**** right away (first person I met) and he's like really quiet and shy, like me. He's 27. He's been going since august. He's been trying to get a job after going to college but doesn't do well in interviews and wants to work in sales.

I met a girl named W**** who also sat with me and K****. She's really cute and very extroverted. A great smile. I was actually very attracted to her so I didn't talk to her much (although I did a little and she was pretty good talking to me despite my anxiety). I'll do better next time. I don't think my mission is going to go after her though, although I guess I'll throw in some material here and there to see what happens. At worst, it'll make me interesting and playful. I can make a lot of great friends here.

Over all, I got all these positive emotions going through me. What a change. I'm like on a happy high. I did courage every step of the way today, going up and sharing in 2 talks already. I did the worse out of everybody, but just doing it felt really good. They have all of these programs to develop all kinds of social skills and even have competitions! It seems like something that is really good to work towards.

And I'm going swing dancing this thursday! Woot!

I'm super exhausted. Once the guy left my house I felt a huge sense of relief - I was extroverting for a really long time! But now I feel so peaceful and serene and confident.

01-24-2006, 01:52 AM	#36 (permalink)
mystic Here to Stay Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 33 Location: windsor, ontario Status: single male	Re: What are the first few things that come to your mind when a guy has never had a g 'm feeling fucking amazing after my first time at that toastmasters meeting. Not quite in bliss, but quite great. I made a ton of friends tonight. Yes, I came off as weird to one of the hotter girls, but meh. I found a great place to me and I was invited to go swing dancing by a girl! Yay! She has a boyfriend and stuff though, but meh. She seems like she's a cool girl and will make a nice friend. Her name is L** and she's 27. She used to be so shy apparantly in university when she got her masters in chemical engineering but now she's doing great. She's been going since november and already a huge improvement. I met this indian guy named C who is 24 and has been going to this thing for 6 years. He's like very funny and extroverted but used to be a computer science geek like myself. Now he dropped computers and went into health care. He's like really cool! And he gave me a ride home and stayed over for a few hours after the beach (a bar). I stayed at the club for like 2-3 hours and talked with everyone!!!! I met a Rush fan named J. He's a big rush fan and older guy (probably 45 or 50) but I really liked him. We joked that I was a leaf's fan and he was a red wing's fan. It's funny because we had to clap in the meeting anytime someone said the world "limelight" and we all had to say some story using the word. He actually went before me and mentioned Rush first even those I was planning to since I couldn't think of anything else. I met a guy named K* right away (first person I met) and he's like really quiet and shy, like me. He's 27. He's been going since august. He's been trying to get a job after going to college but doesn't do well in interviews and wants to work in sales. I met a girl named W who also sat with me and K**. She's really cute and very extroverted. A great smile. I was actually very attracted to her so I didn't talk to her much (although I did a little and she was pretty good talking to me despite my anxiety). I'll do better next time. I don't think my mission is going to go after her though, although I guess I'll throw in some material here and there to see what happens. At worst, it'll make me interesting and playful. I can make a lot of great friends here. Over all, I got all these positive emotions going through me. What a change. I'm like on a happy high. I did courage every step of the way today, going up and sharing in 2 talks already. I did the worse out of everybody, but just doing it felt really good. They have all of these programs to develop all kinds of social skills and even have competitions! It seems like something that is really good to work towards. And I'm going swing dancing this thursday! Woot! I'm super exhausted. Once the guy left my house I felt a huge sense of relief - I was extroverting for a really long time! But now I feel so peaceful and serene and confident.