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Originally Posted by wayne55 I am looking for a lady to explore this lifestyle with. Where is the best place to do this? I ma a fairly gooding looking guy and date often but I do not want to offend anyone. HELP! |
Are you looking for a relationship with a woman who is "lifestyle-experienced" or at least open to the idea, are you looking for a woman who will be your "ticket" into the lifestyle, with little or no relationship other than swinging? The reason I'm asking is that the kind of woman, and where you'll need to go to meet her, varies quite a bit depending on what you want from her. Despite what you may think after reading some of the personals ads on the adult websites, there are no free lunches in this.
Basically, if you're looking for "quality" and don't mind spending a little time cultivating a relationship with a woman (it needn't be exclusive), Match.com is a pretty good place to start.
If all you want is somebody to fuck (or even more pathetic, somebody you really
don't want to fuck, but that you'll contact because you think you might be able to "trade" her for somebody you
do want to fuck), you can try Swing Lifestyle or SN. I've met women from both sites...but...
If I had to sum it up in 3 "rules," they would be these;
1) The quality of the swinging experience is directly related to the quality of the person with whom you enter into it.
2) The quality of
that person is directly related to how much effort you put into finding and cultivating a relationship with them.
3) Having a "female companion" does not mean that most people in the lifestyle will hold you in the same regard they do other couples.
Nor should it...there's a lot more to being a "couple" (at least in this context) than simply bringing a "date" or FB to a lifestyle party.
Oh yea, one last thing. (1b?) When selecting a lifestyle playmate, if you have to choose between "brains" or "body," choose "body."
Just don't let her make a key to your house, or you might wind up needing 3 squad cars and a court-order to get her out. Ask me how I know this...