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**Alura** · 01-21-2006, 03:02 PM

Thanks for the additional input, Mystic. It makes your situation a lot clearer.

I think you need Toastmasters International. They are a civic club dedicated to improving one's communication skills, improving self-confidence, etc. Here's a link to their website: http://www.toastmasters.org/ On the left, near the top of the first page, you'll find "Find a Club." I didn't know your zip code so I didn't look to see if there's one in Windsor.

Forget the clubs and bars. You don't seem to enjoy them at all and if you meet a woman there, you'll probably find that she does like them. Such a difference of opinion, right at the start, would not bode well for a relationship. She may also have an alcohol problem you don't need to deal with.

Now, if you find a woman at Toastmasters, chances are she's there for the same reason you are and will understand you quite well.

There is also a professional training course called The Dale Carnegie Course. (Dale Carnegie wrote How to Win Friends and Influence People.) They teach the same things. I took the course when I was in my twenties and found it helped a lot. I think it's more expensive than Toastmasters, but you'll probably get to where you want to be a lot faster.

Keep us posted!

Mr. Alura

01-21-2006, 03:02 PM	#15 (permalink)
Alura T-Town Playmates Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 6,166 Location: Tulsa, Oklahoma Status: Married to Mrs. Alura	Re: What are the first few things that come to your mind when a guy has never had a gf? Thanks for the additional input, Mystic. It makes your situation a lot clearer. I think you need Toastmasters International. They are a civic club dedicated to improving one's communication skills, improving self-confidence, etc. Here's a link to their website: http://www.toastmasters.org/ On the left, near the top of the first page, you'll find "Find a Club." I didn't know your zip code so I didn't look to see if there's one in Windsor. Forget the clubs and bars. You don't seem to enjoy them at all and if you meet a woman there, you'll probably find that she does like them. Such a difference of opinion, right at the start, would not bode well for a relationship. She may also have an alcohol problem you don't need to deal with. Now, if you find a woman at Toastmasters, chances are she's there for the same reason you are and will understand you quite well. There is also a professional training course called The Dale Carnegie Course. (Dale Carnegie wrote How to Win Friends and Influence People.) They teach the same things. I took the course when I was in my twenties and found it helped a lot. I think it's more expensive than Toastmasters, but you'll probably get to where you want to be a lot faster. Keep us posted! Mr. Alura __________________ "They may call me a rube and a hick, but I'd a lot rather be the man who bought the Brooklyn Bridge than the man who sold it." —Will Rogers Last edited by Alura : 01-21-2006 at 03:06 PM.